Monday, August 22, 2005

Trophy Wife & Boy Toy

Trophy Wife

A trophy wife refers to a marriage pattern in Western society in which some men marry attractive women as a form of display intended to exhibit their wealth and success to others.

A trophy wife doesn’t have to cook and clean and get her manicured nails all dirty.

Often rich and successful men who follow this pattern divorce their first wives, often with a generous divorce settlement, and then marry a second much younger woman.

In many cases this pattern is repeated with subsequent wives. This marriage pattern is of interest to anthropologists because is can be seen as a form of serial monogamy and is analogous to patterns of polygamy in other societies.

Rock stars in particular, like Mick Jagger and Rod Stewart, never take anything BUT trophy wives. And there are billionaires like Donald Trump, whose latest acquisition is model Melania Knauss.

And what happens when the trophy wife gets older, like Bianca Jagger and Ivana Trump? Why, the men dump them, usually with a fair settlement, and take another one! It’s like swapping your Jimmy Choos for a newer, better-looking model.

Toy Boy

Encouraged by Madonna and Demi Moore, increasing numbers of women are dating younger men. But what's in it for the toy boys? Oscar Humphreys, 22, explains the appeal.

Demi Moore is set to marry her toyboy lover Ashton Kutcher in a Kabbalah wedding ceremony.


The couple - who have an age gap of 15 years between them - will tie the knot in November. Moore has been dating Kutcher since April 2003, after being introduced to one another by Puff Daddy at a party in New York.

The marriage will be the 41-year-old star's third - she first wed musician Freddy Moore, whose surname she took, when she was 18.

She then tied the knot with Hollywood actor Bruce Willis - with whom she has three daughters.

The kind of woman who goes for a toy boy is usually financially and emotionally independent; she doesn't require a man for status or security.

SHARON STONE is desperately looking for a toyboy lover - because DEMI MOORE shows dating a younger man can work.

Stone is thrilled Moore's relationship with 27-year-old Kutcher has been a success and wants to find her own younger man.

"They should watch out because if they're not careful, their wives will now be the ones leaving them for younger men.

"Only a few days ago I was chatted up in a bar by a 25 year old. I said, 'I could be your mother.'

"A 25-year-old would be happy to spend the whole afternoon washing your hair for you. But a 40-year-old man who works too hard will get his secretary to send you flowers."

I live with my mother but sometimes I tell people that I live alone. My room is full of overflowing ashtrays and last week's Starbucks cups, and I am constantly surrounded by chaos.

Germaine Greer caused a storm earlier this year when it was revealed that her next book, The Boy, would be a thesis on "why boys have always been the world's pin-ups". Who better, then, to explain to me the appeal of "the boy" to older women?

"Women have always turned on to boys and, historically, older women were expected to introduce boys to the refinement and excitement of sex with the older woman," Greer told me. "They were lovers but they were also teachers. The sexual potency of boys, who have sperm that flows like tap water, is galling to older men. Older men sit in judgement but boys don't do that. They are able to admire a woman for what she has achieved."

Can there be equality in our relationship? Well, there is sexual equality, but, I have to admit, little else (Greer tells me that we are both at our sexual peaks). It is, indeed, an unbalanced arrangement, but that is how my girlfriend likes it.

The way I see it, the kind of woman who goes for a toy boy is usually financially and emotionally independent; she doesn't require a man for status or security. She is therefore able to make a truly honest and objective choice about who she wants to be with.

She doesn't want a bloated banker to buy her dinner; she would rather have fun and laugh with a boy than have boring, responsible weekends in the country with a man her own age. She wants to be reminded that she can still be independent and is still sexy.

Veteran actress Faye Dunaway found an unlikely boy toy in the 22-year-old son of the SULTAN OF BRUNEI

At 64, Dunaway is old enough to be the grandmother of PRINCE AZIM, whose dad is one of the richest men in the world, with a fortune of $47.5 billion (GBP25 billion).

Nevertheless, the pair left exclusive London restaurant Nobu hand-in-hand together last night (27JUN05) prompting reports of a romance.

Pals insist their relationship is strictly business-based - budding film-maker Prince Azim is hoping to persuade Dunaway to appear in a new movie he is making.

But the young lothario has a history with older women - he once sent SIR MICK JAGGER's ex-wife JERRY HALL a bouquet of flowers so large two men had to deliver it, reports the London Evening Standard.

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Azrinaz Mazhar Hakim, 26, better known as a hard-hitting journalist to many TV3 viewers, married Sultan Hassanal Bolkiah, 58, in a closed ceremony in Kuala Lumpur on Saturday August 20th, 2005.

Toys & Trophies in Display -Part 2

Former Miss Malaysia Wed Sweetheart


PETALING JAYA: The days of flying as a stewardess for Miss Malaysia Universe 2001 Tung Mei Chin are over.

The 25-year-old beauty queen's career was “grounded” a few weeks before her engagement to John Tang, 29, in September last year.

And Tung, who was a SIA flight attendant for two years, will be married on the date her grandfather set – Sept 18.

“The date is important for both families as it does not clash with the month of the Hungry Ghost Festival,” she told The Star yesterday.

The couple’s love started innocently as they were friends for three years before becoming an item.

“I met John through his friend while I was studying in a college in Petaling Jaya,” she said.

Their relationship grew warmer when Tang was posted to China while she was a stewardess in Singapore.

“When I had my off days he would try to fly to Singapore to visit me and I would try to change my flight destination to Hong Kong so that I could be with him there,” Tung said.

In July last year, Tang proposed in front of a hotel lobby in Kuala Lumpur when they were in the country for a holiday.

“That took me by surprise. I did not expect anything to happen during that short trip,” Tung said, adding that two months later she quit her job as she wanted to be closer to Tang in China.

The couple plan to move to Guangzhou, China, after their marriage to help in Tang’s family business in garment manufacturing.

Tung and Tang, both Penangites, will hold their wedding ceremony in Penang.

Azrinaz Weds Brunei Sultan

WITH politics and other heavy issues hogging the headlines these past few weeks, Berita Minggu instead broke the story of a former TV3 personality marrying the Sultan of Brunei on its front page.

Azrinaz Mazhar Hakim, 26, better known as a hard-hitting journalist to many TV3 viewers, married Sultan Hassanal Bolkiah, 58, in a closed ceremony in Kuala Lumpur on Saturday.

One guest told Berita Minggu that the ceremony was only attended by family members, relatives and close friends of both bride and groom.

Azrinaz took a course in broadcasting diploma at the Malaysian Institute of Integrative Media (MIIM) or Akademi TV3 in 1997 and started work as an executive journalist with the station two years later.

However, the winner of TV3 Promising Journalist for 2000 resigned last May, saying she hoped to explore other fields.

She received a MIIM Alumni Award in 2002.

With Azrinaz’s marriage, the newspaper said, it has solved a riddle that had been circulating so strongly for some time.

The paper also highlighted an award presented by Johor Mentri Besar Datuk Abdul Ghani Othman to newly crowned Akademi Fantasia winner Asmawi Ani, popularly known as Mawi, for making the state famous.

In his speech before 3,000 spectators, Abdul Ghani said Mawi had successfully projected the image of a clean Malay youth with a winning personality and uplifted the name of the state with his talent.

Both the newspaper and Mingguan Malaysia also highlighted a statement by Kelantan Mentri Besar Datuk Nik Abdul Aziz Nik Mat calling on wives to keep in mind the “problems” faced by aging virgin women, whose number has increased in the country, and not stop their husbands from marrying again.

These wives, he said, should not prevent their husbands’ plans by reacting violently as long as the latter could afford to take another wife.

“Just think of the situation faced by the aged virgin. She will be forced to remain unmarried when in actual fact, there is a man who desires her. Wives should thus give these men room.

“These things will not be resolved as long as people only seek to fulfil their own desires but not think of others’ desires as well,” he said.

Sunday, August 21, 2005

Toys & Trophies in Display -Part 1

Love blossoms and he becomes a grandpa at 27


BUTTERWORTH: She is a 47-year-old widow with five children and a 10-month-old grandson. He is 27.

They met eight months ago. Love blossomed and despite the initial family shock and protest, they tied the knot yesterday.

In so doing, Mohd Riduan Husiani may have become the youngest grandfather on record, even if not from a biological viewpoint.

Hasnah Abdullah, looking resplendent in her turquoise blue baju kebaya bridal outfit, smiled shyly as she exchanged rings with her partner during their akad nikah at Masjid Jamek Seberang Jaya.

“My first husband, Ridzuan Said, died from kidney failure nine years ago. I felt lonely after that. Then Mohd Riduan came along.

“Both of them have similar names. I believe it is fate that brought us together.”

Hasnah, a factory operator, met Mohd Riduan, a security officer, at their previous workplace in Permatang Batu, Bukit Mertajam.

Her daughter, Siti Fairus Ridzuan, 17, said the family was initially shocked.

“We told her she was crazy. But after listening to her reasons, we relented and accepted Mohd Riduan as part of the family.

“We find it odd calling him dad though, as he is quite young. So, we have decided on calling him pakcik (uncle) instead.”

Mohd Riduan said his parents, too, initially disapproved of the marriage plans because of the wide age gap.

They later gave their consent, but chose not to attend the wedding ceremony.

“I am proud to be a ready-made grandfather as I love children,” said Mohd Riduan.

“I accept Hasnah's children and grandson as my own, but I hope to have at least two children with her.”

They plan to go on a honeymoon in Pangkor.

“She may be as old as my mother, but I know she will take good care of me, just as I will take care of her,” said Mohd Riduan.

They were among 12 couples who were married in an inaugural mass wedding ceremony for Muslims in the Permatang Pauh constituency arranged by Seberang Jaya assemblyman Arif Shah Omar Shah.

Wednesday, August 10, 2005

P & D CEO fined $600,000 for CBT

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This is a Criminal Breach of Trust; a failure in performing a fudiciary duty of which it was entrusted to him by the public and of which $26 million was blatantly misused and abused. For that crime, he was fined $600,000 by the Session Court. Isn't it worth? I would want to take this risk, as it's worth the efforts where the public had to pay $26mil?

To add salt, the ACA spent huge sums to investigate the affairs and culminated with this conclusion. Oh.....god is great, but men are greater....

Read the story:

Former chief executive officer of Plantations and Development (Malaysia) Bhd, Yong Tiam Yoon, was fined RM600,000 yesterday for abetting the company in misusing RM26.5mil in public issue proceeds nine years ago. Sessions Court judge Nursinah Adzmi fined Yong, 54, the amount in default 20 months' jail. He paid the fine.

Yong pleaded guilty on Tuesday after initially claiming trial to the offence committed between Aug 1 and Nov 15, 1996, at the company’s premises in IGB Plaza, Jalan Kampar, here. Yong, in his capacity as CEO, was charged in 2001 with abetting P&D in contravening a condition imposed by the Securities Commission, which had approved the company’s application to list on the Main Board of the Kuala Lumpur Stock Exchange (now known as Bursa Malaysia Securities Bhd).

In a letter of approval dated Feb 12, 1996, the SC had stipulated that RM30.15mil of public issue proceeds were to be utilised for the acquisition of land, financing a joint venture project, acquiring an office block at Sentul Raya and as working capital for P&D. However, the funds were used to reduce loan facilities by several subsidiary companies of P&D and as at Nov 15, 1996, a total of RM26,493,335.57 had been misutilised.

Two others charged with the same offence were P&D executive directors Chua Peng Len @ Chua Peng Jin, 65, and Gwi Chin Fatt, 51. Chua was fined RM250,000 after he pleaded guilty in 2001 while Gwi was fined RM500,000 when he admitted to the offence two weeks ago.

In mitigating for a light sentence, counsel Tan Hock Chuan said that Yong was not the sole person who made the decision on how the said proceeds were to be utilised. He said P&D’s board of directors had decided against the acquisition of land and the office block at Sentul Raya due to the weak property market at the time. He pleaded for a non-custodial sentence for Yong who suffers from diabetes, hypertension and stomach complications.

“The accused is married with three children and comes from a prominent family in Singapore. His reputation has already been affected as a result of this conviction.”

P&D was classified under Practice Note 4 of the KLSE Rules in February 2001 with a negative shareholders’ fund of RM134.5mil as at Dec 31, 1999,

In November 2003, its listing status was subsequently taken over by Fountain View Development Bhd. The new company is also entangled in some legal problems. Businessman and substantial shareholder of Fountain View Development, Datuk Chin Chan Leong, 52, was charged on June 25 with manipulating the company’s shares in the stock market. Former Avenue Securities Sdn Bhd remisier Hiew Yoke Lan, 43, was also charged with abetting him.

Corporate Governance? Minority Watchdogs? Where are they????

Malaysia Boleh Ideology!!!!!

Tuesday, August 09, 2005

My Obssession with Marina

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She is back with another diatribe. She is brunt and straight, and she would not live to be a hypocrite. What has she got to say,; about what? Read below her article in The Star today:

Let them speak


I’ve always thought that Malaysians are disinclined towards self-reflection and analysis. Why this should be so could probably be blamed on an education system that does not encourage independent thinking and questioning, as well as a dislike for confronting anything unpleasant. This is all very well if you never have to face it for yourself. But lately I’ve been in situations where I’ve had to witness this and you want to just curl up in embarrassment.

First I was at an overseas conference where a Malaysian government official was presenting a paper on a subject that was controversial and has few supporters in the international community. I was surprised that he had accepted the invitation to speak in the first place but having done so, I thought he must have worked out a convincing argument. To the utter bemusement of everybody, he presented a paper more suited to a high school student than a senior government official. Not only was it devoid of any scientific justification, it bore no logic at all.

It made me realise that some officials must live in an insular world where they have no idea what the rest of the world thinks and therefore naively present arguments that they don’t even realise will not hold water among well-informed people. Then they are shocked at the strong reaction they get. Now if they can then respond by presenting cogent reasons for their viewpoint, they might have saved a modicum of respect. But instead they simply give up and refuse to take the challenge of engaging in a debate. Everybody is then left dissatisfied.

I thought this was just an aberration until I witnessed the same inability to read an audience and present an intelligent analysis of a situation from an even more senior official. Perhaps when we are used to an uninformed unquestioning audience, we tend to underestimate the intelligence of every one we face.

It wouldn’t have alarmed me, if I thought that there was a new generation of Malaysians who could be different. So I went to a seminar hoping to listen to more interesting viewpoints. I did find some but not from anyone I didn’t already know. In a panel where university lecturers spoke and students asked questions and ventured opinions, I was struck by how some supposedly highly-qualified academicians had the same inability to provide a rational analysis of real situations and instead resorted to vague generalisations and illogic. Unsurprisingly the students were no better, asking unoriginal questions and spouting well-worn phrases that elicited applause from their own crowd. Not a single student asked any questions which were at all provocative or revealed some real thinking.

I suppose we should not blame our students’ lack of thinking skills when people who don’t have them either are teaching them. (And I know it isn’t just me saying this; some visiting academicians have embarrassingly mentioned the same thing). Students are also not going to stand up and say anything different for fear of attracting derision both from their lecturers and their peers. This is not a country that values original thinking and difference much after all.

The sad thing is, when you get young people by themselves, away from adults that they depend on, they can be very different. They can express opinions that don’t imitate others and you can appeal to their common sense and inherent goodness. But how much opportunity do we give young people to do this safely and without attracting some sort of punishment?

Yet if we expect the next generation to compete on an international level, we have to nurture their ability to speak and stand up for themselves. The types that I’ve been listening to will only be laughed at overseas.

I know what I speak of. As a young university student overseas, I was shocked to find that not only did people have vastly different opinions than me, they were more than willing to tell me exactly why I was wrong. The first few times I would retreat wounded into my room and cry with frustration at my own inability to defend my views. I also wondered how much of my views were in fact my own or just regurgitation of someone else’s. In time I got better at thinking out issues and putting across my opinion. I also learnt that it isn’t the end of the world if everybody disagreed with you.

We have to do something concrete about nurturing the thinking skills of our young people because otherwise they will not survive in the larger world. For a start we could be more stringent about the intellectual abilities of those who teach them. We can also create an environment that would be safe and encouraging for our young people to express themselves. Only then can we hold our heads high wherever we are.


Profanity? Ya, to some of the gaudy Malaysian Academicians and senior officials; but to most commoners, Marina is not the only person who scorn these un-ingenious dim-wit. We have often seen it the way she saw it except the fact that she speaks out loud and unassuming.

But the system managers, didn't they know about their own megalomaniacs? oh, oh, oh, they may not for they are megalomaniacs too.....

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